Grave Markers, Headstones and Memorials
Things to Consider when Purchasing a Grave Marker or Headstone
Do you need to arrange for a memorial grave marker, headstone or monument and are not sure where to start? The information outlined below aims to provide a simple, basic guide to assist you.
One of the most important things to consider in purchasing a grave marker is the cemetery regulations. Cemeteries regulate the headstones placed on graves within their grounds. Cemetery Rules and Regulations, as they are known, outline certain requirements such as size, material, and type of headstone. Before you order a headstone for your loved one, you should check the requirements of the cemetery where your loved one will be interred. They can, and are known to, refuse any headstone that does not meet their requirements. Check all their regulations carefully to make sure you know exactly what IS and ISN'T permitted before consulting a headstone supplier. Being that headstones, grave markers and monuments are often installed some time after the funeral and burial, to allow for any ground settlement, this does allow you to ensure you have time to consult with both the cemetery and your grave marker supplier, to have your headstone prepared.
Note: Many reputable & established local masonry suppliers will be fully familiar with the requirements at their local cemeteries.
How soon can a Grave Marker be sited on a Grave?
For centuries the custom of siting a grave marker has usually been the final detail in burying a loved one. For family it serves as a focal point when visiting the grave, and can provide a sense of closure, in immortalizing the memory of your loved one. How do you know the right time to place a headstone marker on the grave? While no protocol has been set in stone (pun intended) here are some things to consider.
- Cemetery Requirements (as mentioned above, cemeteries will have strict rules on how soon a marker can be laid).
- Religious Customs - some cultures traditionally have an 'unveiling' of a grave marker. In Jewish tradition this can be as long as one year after the deceased has been buried.
Types of Monument Suppliers
Headstones and Grave Markers can be purchased from a number of different monument suppliers. Historically, the funeral home or cemetery would sell you a headstone as part of your funeral package, and they would make all the necessary arrangements. Alternatively, you could deal direct with local stone masons to make your own arrangements. Many monument businesses are usually located close to cemeteries. More recently the Internet has revolutionized the monument business, and it is now possible to purchase a headstone direct from an online supplier. In many cases these suppliers are established monument businesses. A major trade off of Internet based monument suppliers is the lack of an actual showroom. However, this is often made up by the lower prices they can offer you. If the cost of a grave marker is a concern within your funeral expenses, then purchasing a grave marker from an online store can save you money. In addition to offering significant discounts on the cemetery price of a monument, they can also offer 24/7 access and this means you can browse the selection of monuments at your own time and leisure. Often this allows for the family to consult together in the period of time following a bereavement, especially when family are separated by distance, and make decisions via an online grave marker supplier. To see a full selection of visit "Woodlawn Monuments"
Choosing a Headstone or Grave Marker
Choosing a memorial headstone for a family member can be a difficult task. What type of memorial marker is appropriate? Once you know the cemetery regulations, this will help you to make your decision. Many headstones are adorned not only with the name and dates of the deceased, but also with some befitting symbolism. You may be called upon to make a decision about what is most appropriate for your loved one. It may be that you choose something that reflects an important aspect of their life or interests - something they are remembered for. Or you may just choose one of the many common symbolic themes such as angels, doves, candle, cross, lilies, palms at prayer, etc
Generally these days you can chose from granite, marble and bronze as the material from which a headstone is manufactured. There are typically four main types of grave markers: Monuments (which stand upright), Slants (which are more wedge-shaped), Markers (which are typically flat) and Benches (which are designed to offer seating also). Also bear in mind that you can chose either a single or companion grave marker. As many loved ones chose to be buried together, it can often save money on a grave marker by purchasing a companion headstone. Some people can consider this a little macabre to have a companion headstone selected when one party still remains alive, but it is certainly a much more affordable option in the long-run!
Selecting Headstone Epitaphs& Verses
Once you have decided upon the type of headstone and the design andsymbolism, you will need to think carefully about what you wish to be carved or written as an epitaph on the grave marker. It is common to have the full name and dates of birth and death. What else is added is down to personal choice of the family, and just how 'personalized' you wish the headstone to be. It is wise to carefully plan this out, and your monument supplier will usually help you with this as part of their service. We have noted below some typical, and some amusing epitaphs.
Other accessories for grave markers
Adding a plaque or sculpture can enhance a grave marker or monument, and bronze decals have become more popular. In the case of veterans, bronze military decals are often an important part of the design of a grave marker. The practice of adding images and photographs to grave markers has increased in the United States, particularly now it is possible to add ceramic full-color photographs. Many people also chose to add a vase to their grave marker in order that there is a permanent feature for floral tributes.
Furthermore, lighting should be considered as an accessory feature for your grave marker. Candles have long symbolized remembrance in our culture, and with solar energy, it is now possible to permanently enhance a monument with solar crosses, angels, peace lights and cemetery lights.
Grave markers and headstones in the 21st century
- 3D Memorial Mask Grave Markers - with advanced technology a three dimensional, solid life image portrait is created and mounted on your headstone. This technique is totally non-invasive and creates a 'living' 3D memorial image.
- Video-Enhanced Grave Marker (otherwise known as a VEGM or Vidstone) - as the moving image has so become a cornerstone of our culture and often used as part of the memorial process, so it was inevitable that it would become a feature of a permanent memorial grave marker. The idea of a VEGM is that the grave marker has a weather-proofed solar-powered video and LCD monitor to facilitate playback and recording, initiated by a remote control. At present the costs for this kind of technology do not make it cost-effective for most, with estimated costs starting anywhere around $1,000 for the technology alone.
- Interactive Headstones - still largely in the conception stages, but before long we will be able to use our 'smart' phones to interact with chips implanted in grave markers in order to access a full obituary of the person interred on our handheld devices.
Can I Pre-order a Grave Marker and Headstone?
Yes, pre-need purchasing of a monument or grave marker has become more popular based on common sense and economical need. A memorial headstone is a significant means by which we create a lasting tribute to our life, and yet it can also be one of the major costs of end-of-life expenses. As costs for materials can keep rising, pre-purchasing a grave marker can conserve your estate now, and save loved ones from the worry of such an expense at the time of need.
Many couples who desire to be buried together can pre-plan the selection of their burial plot and grave marker. This not only enables loved ones to decide together what they want, it takes that pressure from their children and family.
What is the typical cost of a headstone, grave marker or monument?
As with all purchases, costs can vary significantly, and are largely dependent on your specific requirements. What type of grave marker you select, what material, plaques, and accessories you chose all affect the overall cost, and it would be very difficult to quote an average price. We would wholeheartedly recommend that you do compare prices and consult with more than one monument supplier to ensure the price quoted is equitable. We have known small flat granite grave markers to start from as little as $95.00, but at the same time the cost of a granite monument can run into thousands of dollars.
As a grave marker will not normally be laid on a grave immediately, do not feel under pressure to rush the process of arranging a marker. It is, obviously, more important to ensure you end up with a time-preserved, elegant and befitting memorial tribute for generations to come.
Here is a great selection of markers and headstone from Woodlawn Monuments
Cremation and the Memorial Marker Industry
We are undergoing a major revolution in the funeral industry at present. The rise in cremation is taking the industry by storm, and seriously affecting the funeral industries profits, as cremation presents a more affordable disposition option.
A reduction in burials has a knock-on effect for many other industries aside from the funeral home business. Cemeteries and grave marker companies are faced with challenges as there is a decline in the demand for burial plots and headstones.
Many cemeteries are adapting by installing more columbarium space to accommodate interred cremated remains in cremation urns, or simply adding a 'scattering garden' to their existing memorial grounds.
A full-size memorial marker is no longer required when a family chose to inter a cremation urn in a columbarium or other memorial space. However, there is a growing market for memorial plaques, memorial garden rocks, memorial statues, memorial benches and other memorial paraphernalia that can be sited in tribute to a loved one who has been cremated.
With more people opting for cremation, and either scattering or the interment of a small cremation urn, the size and variety of grave markers, is likely to completely change. This also presents greater scope for families to purchase memorial markers online. A small plaque or memorial rock may not require installation in the same way that a full-size headstone does, enabling families to buy online and arrange the siting of their marker themselves.
Mobile headstone engraving or on-site engraving
On-site engraving, or on-site inscription, is where a monument dealer will visit the cemetery and conduct any inscriptions to a memorial marker without the need for removing the headstone. This can be a cost-saving way to either add an inscription to a grave marker, or even amend an existing epitaph.
Unfortunately many cemeteries are not too pleased that families can now opt to purchase a grave marker elsewhere, and are therefore not always very cooperative when it comes to making amendments or changes to a grave marker that they did not sell in the first place.
If you require changes to the inscription on a headstone, it is probably advisable to consult a local monument company within 50 miles of the cemetery, and find out if they can conduct on-site engraving. Although the cost for on-site engraving can vary between companies, in our experience the price is usually around $125 - $150.
Can I insure my memorial grave marker against damage?
We have been asked this question a number of times by families. Some families spend thousands of dollars on a headstone, and want to ensure it is in some way covered against any damage, be it accidental or vandalism. The good news is that yes you can insure your grave marker. Many home insurance policies will now include accidental damage coverage on a memorial marker of up to $5,000. In 2000 the Insurance Service Organization made a recommendation that insurance companies should offer this coverage. However, not all do, so you should check this with your home owner's insurance company. Damage to a grave marker is more often caused by a cemeteries own ground maintenance than by any malicious activity. If you notice damage to a grave marker you can firstly check with the cemetery and their perpetual care coverage. All cemeteries build in 'perpetual care' into their cemetery costs, as this is what enables them to maintain their grounds. If your marker appears to be damaged due to a deterioration of materials, then you can contact your grave marker supplier. Most suppliers offer a lifetime guarantee against wear and tear caused by the elements, and will arrange to repair or replace your headstone if it has rusted, faded or cracked due to nature's elements.
Knowing that your home owner's policy can cover your family memorial markers can give some peace of mind about the costs to replace an elaborate or heritage marker.
What size does a grave marker need to be?
The standard size for a grave marker typically depends upon the grave plot. There are general standard sizes for single, double or infant plots. A standard size for a single grave is 24" by 12", although 28" by 16" is used for more elaborate single headstones or double depth graves where 2 names need to be inscribed on one headstone.
For a companion grave marker that sits centered over 2 side by side graves, the typical dimensions are 36" by 18" or 44" by 14".
A headstone for an infant grave plot or a cremation urn interment plot is generally standardized at 16" by 8".
These sizes are just general standard dimensions, but you should check with your cemetery what regulations they have about memorial markers before purchasing a grave marker.
The cremated remains of my mother are to be buried in a cemetery in North E. Missouri. Most of the monument companies in that area state that the remains have to be put into a cement vault that is to be dug and poured, set and then the remains put in and then sealed before monument is placed on top. One of the family members wants to just dig a hole and put the remains in and them place the monument on top after it is filled in. Is there any special law concerning burial of cremated remains in Missouri?
It is generally the cemetery that has regulations about what you can do. So if you are burying in a cemetery grounds you will have to follow their rules. They nearly always request that a burial liner be used to maintain the integrity of the ground and prevent subsidence. Placing a stone monument on top of a hole that has no concrete liner could result in the monument collapsing into the earth over time. You need to check with the regulations of your cemetery. But I would expect that the monument company is correct as they will be familiar with the rules of the local cemeteries they serve.
Can a name be printed on a grave stone before burial?
Yes I believe so. Some people even choose to have a partner headstone done (for husband and wife) and have both names printed on it when it is installed for the first death. They just leave the dates off and add these later!
What is the standard depth of an engraved headstone?
While I can't speak for every company, I can let you know how we inscribe. For years we maintained a number of government contracts inscribing markers for our US Veterans in 13 of our National Cemeteries. There were strict regulations that needed to be met, one in particular was an inscription depth of approximately 1/4". We continued using this standard depth on the markers that we sell to the public. There are times that an area of very detailed artwork may need to be inscribed slightly shallower to prevent the risk of damaging small, raised pieces of granite, but anything else should be very near 1/4". If you have any further questions, or if there is anything else at all that I can help with, please don't hesitate to ask. Thank you. Hunter Collins [Affordable Markers]
When a bronze memorial is bought in advance, is it inscribed at that time or at the time of death?
Hello. I believe you can choose either. You can have it inscribed at the time of purchase, or choose to have it inscribed at the time of installation.
The Headstone, Tombstone and Grave Marker Industry today in the U.S
Placing a permanent, time-withstanding memorial marker at the site of a tomb or grave has a long tradition. It is believed Tombstones originate from a long-held Jewish custom whereby visitors to a tomb or grave place stones at the head of the grave. Headstones original from an ancient tradition relating to death, where it was a common-held belief that in order for the dead to remain in the grave, large piles of rocks (or cairns) must be placed above the grave.
Today the terms Headstone, Grave Marker and Tombstone are largely taken in common language to mean a permanent memorial marker at the site of a burial. However, it was not always so, and a tombstone or headstone was traditionally the stone lid for a coffin. Whereas the 'gravestone' or Grave Marker was the stone set upon the gravesite as a visible 'marker'. Gravestones were originally made out of marble, sandstone and even wood at different times, however these materials often proved unable to withstand the tests of time.
A tombstone today is usually constructed in an entirely different style than previous generations, and grave markers are now quite elaborate and ornate. Tombstones of yesteryear were typically up-right pieces of sculpted stone that had engraved information about the people whose graves they marked. Yet most of today's tombstones are smaller, simpler, plaque-like pieces made of bronze, granite, or a combination of the two, and they are displayed directly on the ground at the head of graves. Large up-right tombstones are less common these days, as time has shown that they have a tendency to deteriorate and fall over as years pass. Tombstones that are installed at ground level are designed to weather the elements much longer.
Although the style and design of Grave Markers has changed over the years, they still remain a central memorial custom. Today's Headstones and Grave Markers are generally made from granite and bronze. A bronze plaque, or plate, is typically decorated with a memorial design and the name and dates of the deceased. This plate is then inlaid to a granite marker and placed at the gravesite in the cemetery. The costs and legislation relating to Grave Markers and Headstones has also impacted upon how design and style has changed over the years. These days cemeteries have strict rules that govern what markers can be placed, and all markers need to be installed by a qualified masonry professional. Many cemeteries have guidelines for grave marker sizes, and can refuse to allow a headstone memorial to be sited if it does not conform to these guidelines.
Traditionally a grave marker or headstone would be ordered direct through the funeral home or cemetery, or a local stone mason. In modern culture it is possible to purchase a grave marker independently and arrange to have it sited. Many established stone masonry and memorial companies offer this service, and you can even order a headstone online these days and often at a significant discount.
Over the centuries, grave markers and headstones have greatly changed - for the better. Early grave markers were actually stones and boulders that were placed on graves for a strange and superstitious purpose. It was believed they were needed to keep the dead from rising from their graves. The weight of the markers was meant to keep them from climbing out from beneath the heavy rocks.
Eventually, grave markers were instead used to memorialize the person buried there. Early grave markers were made from rough stone or wood and did not last long over time due to exposure to wind, rain and snow. In Europe and in old New England, carvings on headstones were used to frighten the living to maintain a life of righteousness by images of a horrible damnation. Carvings on these monuments were usually skeletons, angels of death and winged skulls.
However, changes for the better began in the Victorian era. Headstones and grave markers in American cemeteries were now ornamental. Beautifully carved statues and mausoleums were made by companies that were formed specifically for this purpose. Italian immigrants who had studied carving in Milan were hired to do the intricate carving that had become so popular.
Carvings on headstones now were used to make a statement about the lives of the deceased. Images such as flowers, especially roses and lilies, represented purity and love. The willow tree, urns and columns are just a few examples of the changes in funeral art. Cemeteries had become places that appeared park-like and tranquil instead of creating fear in the mourners.
There are several different names for grave markers: cemetery headstones, grave headstones, memorial headstones, granite headstones, bronze markers, affordable headstones, discount headstones, upright headstones to name but a few.
A number of headstones and grave markers were inscribed with amusing or thought-provoking epitaphs. The following can be found at Benjamin Franklin's grave site:
"The body of B. Franklin,
Like the Cover of an old Book
Its Contents turn out
And Stript of its Lettering and Guilding
Lies here, Food for Worms
For, it will as he believed appear once more
In a new and more elegant Edition
corrected and improved
By the Author."
Some amusing epitaphs:
In a New Mexico cemetery - "Here lies Johnny Yeast, pardon me for not rising".
In a cemetery in Nova Scotia - "Here lies Ezekial Aikle, Age 102, The Good Die Young."
A man who died in an accident - buried in a Pennsylvania cemetery - "Here lies the body of Jonathan Blake, Stepped on the gas instead of the brake."
In Silver City, Nevada - "Here lies Butch, We planted him raw, He was quick on the trigger, But slow on the draw."
A lawyer in England - "Sir John Strange, Here lies an honest lawyer, And that is Strange."
In Boot Hill Cemetery in Tombstone, Arizona - "Here lies Lester Moore, Four slugs from a .44, No Les No More."
In a Georgia cemetery - "I told you I was sick."
Some epitaphs of celebrities:
"That's All Folks, The Man of 1,000 Voices, Mel Blanc"
(He did the voices of Bugs Bunny, Porky Pig, Elmer Fudd, Daffy Duck and countless other Disney cartoon characters).
"She Did It The Hard Way - Bette Davis"
"My Jesus Mercy, Alphonse Capone"
(The notorious gangster Al Capone)
"A Star on Earth - A Star in Heaven, Karen Carpenter"
(Singer who died in her 30's of anorexia)
"A Gentle Man and a Gentleman, Jack Dempsey"
(Heavyweight boxing champion)
"Called Back, Emily Dickinson"
And strangely, this is all that appears on the headstone of famous funnyman W.C. Fields "1880-1946".
Last Revised: 03-25-2015