A Guide to Sending Funeral Flowers
and Sympathy Flowers
Funeral flowers and sympathy
flowers are an important way that we convey condolences and enhance a solemn
funeral service. Beautiful floral displays make excellent tributes
to a lost loved one, and bring comfort to the family. What kind of
flowers to send, what etiquette you should follow, when and where to send
funeral flowers, and how to send funeral flowers on a budget are all questions
that this guide aims to answer.
The cost of funeral flowers
has become inhibiting to some families today, and so at US Funerals Online
we have teamed up with BloomsToday to offer our visitors the opportunity
to save money on sending funeral and sympathy flowers.
What kind of funeral flowers
should I send?
There are several factors that
can help to determine what kind of funeral flower arrangement to send.
It can depend upon your relationship to the deceased, what floral tributes
the family are ordering, whether you are attending the funeral or not and
how much you want to spend on funeral flowers.
Generally the immediate family
select Casket Sprays or Shaped Wreath tributes as a family floral tribute
to accompany the casket at the funeral or cremation service.
Some families may request
a particular theme for funeral flowers for the service. This can
be a theme of a particular variety of flower or a color scheme. It
is always wise to check with the family, or the funeral home, as to whether
any special requests have been made.
Choosing a befitting floral
tribute can be quite a daunting task, therefore we have outlined below
some of the typical arrangements you can select from. If you need
help deciding what floral arrangement to select, or have any questions
about sending funeral flowers, you can call our eFlorist toll-free on (800)
Funeral sprays are a popular
choice, and are a very versatile floral arrangement. A funeral spray
can be either single ended or double ended. Funeral sprays are available
in a wide range of designs, sizes and colors.
A standing spray is a design
that stands upright, typically supported on an easel or lent against the
casket. This kind of arrangement ensures the floral arrangement is
easily visible during the service.
Funeral Flower Baskets &
Baskets and posies are another
popular choice. A funeral flower basket is an easy way to ensure
that flowers can be easily transported and moved around. This can
be especially useful if flowers may be moved from the funeral home, or
church, to the graveside; or if the family wishes to take flowers home.
If you wish to have the family take the flowers home after the services,
a floral basket is in order. The arrangement is tastefully prepared
and placed in a wicker basket for this purpose.
A posy is typically a round
shaped floral arrangement, which means it can be viewed from every angle.
Flowers hand tied are set in water and more suited to be sent to the mourner's
home. The reason is that there is no guarantee that the flowers will
remain upright on the trip to the cemetery.
Funeral wreaths are what many
people associate with floral funeral tributes. Funeral wreaths are typically
shaped, often circular, but come in many shapes, designs and sizes.
. Wreath rings are lovely floral tributes to consider sending. They
consist of a mixture of flowers loosely set in a green wreath.
A funeral cross can be a popular
choice, especially for a church service or to express personal sentiment.
Funeral crosses can be made in a variety of sizes and designs.
Funeral Flowers prepared in
an oasis base last longer such as floral arrangements in the shape of a
heart. A heart-shaped wreath can be an extremely personal symbolic
choice of floral arrangement, connoting love and compassion.
Letter or Name Tributes
Letter or name floral tributes
are a very personalized form of funeral flowers. They are often chosen
by close family who wish to express their personal loss and feel the use
of a name or term such as ‘Mom’ or ‘Grandma’ is the most befitting tribute.
Cushions and Pillow Tributes
The use of a symbolic cushion
or pillow as a funeral arrangement helps to indicate a final resting place
and connote peace and serenity. Cushion and pillow tributes can be
handcrafted in a range of sizes and colors. Pillows or cushions with your
choice of flowers can be made up to be placed in the coffin. The name of
the deceased can also be added to the pillow for personalization.
Casket or Coffin sprays are
large arrangements of flowers that are approximately 4 feet long and are
elegantly draped on the casket. They can be ordered in colors befitting
a male or female as well as a general floral spray mixed with appropriate
Arrangements of flowers that
can either sit on the floor or a table top, suitable for the viewing, service
or can be sent to the relatives’ home.
Dish Gardens and Plants
Selections of green plants and
blooming flowers, suitable for both the funeral service or can be sent
to the bereaved relatives’ home.
What type of flowers should
I choose for funeral flowers?
Any type of flowers can be used
for funeral flower tributes. However, there are certain flowers that
are more popular and more commonly used in floral arrangements. In
many countries worldwide, chrysanthemums are traditionally used in funeral
floral arrangements. White is the most popular color. However,
they are also available in a number of other lovely colors.
One of the reasons white
is so popular is that it can be sprayed any color that is desired.
Another reason is that white denotes truth and honesty. Double chrysanthemums
are also popular since they can be used for pillows, names and massed wreaths
Roses are a very popular
funeral flower because of their striking beauty. Red roses are the
most traditional flower used and white, yellow and pink are frequently
used as well.
Another traditional funeral
flower is the lily. Longiflorum lilies come in white only and the
flower head has a trumpet shape. Other types of lilies are also often
used in floral arrangements. Carnations are also traditional funeral
flowers. Massed in red, they have great visual appeal. However,
they are more expensive than chrysanthemums and are consequently not used
Since the type of funeral
flowers sent comes from the heart, the decision should reflect your personal
feelings for the deceased and you should be satisfied that your choice
sends a sincere and appropriate message.
The Meaning of different
Flower Species for funeral flowers and sympathy flowers
The design, color and history
of a flower all contribute to its symbolic meaning. Lilies are associated
with peace, Honeysuckle indicates sweetness of disposition, Coreopsis represents
cheerfulness, Roses indicate love and Aloe symbolizes wisdom and integrity.
Most Florist’s selection of sympathy flowers is in keeping with choosing
blooms that have a peaceful and dignified meaning.
How to choose the color of
a Sympathy Flower Arrangement
Choosing a particular color
of a flower or the color palate of a flower arrangement can set the tone
of the condolence message you are trying to convey. This is yet another
aspect of how flowers may communicate in a way that surpasses words alone.
The delicate stems of White
lilies and Roses symbolize peace, and are very commonly associated with
funeral flower arrangements. Yellow Roses symbolize remembrance
and friendship. Pink Roses can indicate elegance, femininity and
grace. The colors in sympathy flowers may also help to signify a
story about the life of the deceased. It is quite common for a veteran
to be honored with a red, white and blue floral tribute. The family
of an Italian immigrant may appreciate a sympathy arrangement in the colors
of the Italian flag.
What is the difference between
funeral flowers and Sympathy Flowers?
This is a commonly asked question.
Funeral flowers are the floral tributes that are displayed during the funeral
or memorial service. They are typically sent to the funeral home,
crematory, church or the location where the funeral service is being conducted.
Sympathy flowers are sent
to the recently bereaved to show your condolences and offer solace and
compassion at a time of distress. Sympathy flowers are typically
sent to the home or workplace of the bereaved. Sympathy flowers can
be sent immediately on news of the death, or at any time before or after
How much do funeral flowers
A simple funeral flower or sympathy
flower arrangement can be sent for as little as $29.99. The classic
peace lily in a basket is the most common affordable sympathy arrangement.
Funeral flower baskets and sprays range in price depending upon the size
and design of the tribute. Typically you can expect to pay in the
region of $50.00 - $80.00 for a decent size floral arrangement. Specialist
requests for name floral tributes or shaped wreaths can cost anything upwards
of $100.00 and a large casket spray can cost between $250 - $700.
Why are funeral flowers so expensive?
Floral arrangements grace any
occasion, yet the costs of sending fresh flowers these days can be quite
expensive. Funeral flowers are generally the core of any florist’s
business and therefore many florists do ensure that their prices are matched
accordingly within the market. As the funeral flower market is highly
competitive this helps to keep the costs for funeral flowers at a somewhat
fixed price. Funeral flowers are an integral part of a funeral service,
and important to add some beauty, color and inspiration to a somber event.
Yet they can be a huge expense that is very short-lived. This is
often why so many families today just ask for charitable donations in lieu
of funeral flowers.
How can I send inexpensive,
or cheaper, funeral flowers?
Many people turn to the Internet
today to find out how they can save money on sending funeral flowers.
As I have just mentioned above, you can select simple inexpensive sympathy
flowers, but funeral flowers can end up costing you hundreds of dollars.
Still sending funeral flowers can work out cheaper than the costs to travel
and attend a funeral.
Most people do want assurances
that they are dealing with a reputable flower seller and that their floral
tribute will be delivered safely to the funeral home, funeral service location
or home of the bereaved. An online flower retailer may often be able
to offer a discount on funeral flowers, as they are not operating with
the same overheads as a flower retail chain. We have teamed up with
BloomsToday, a family-owned American company, who offer affordable funeral
flowers with a 25% discount on standard funeral flower prices. Popular
choices of beautiful and inexpensive funeral flowers can be ordered simply
online from this page or be phoning directly toll-free on (800) 317-4807.
You can often arrange to
send funeral flowers directly with the funeral home handling the funeral,
but you should check their pricing. Some funeral homes can charge
an additional fee for arranging this, or have commission arrangements with
Remember your love or respect
for the deceased should not be measured by how much you can spend on floral
tributes! Simple, elegant and graceful sympathy flowers need not
put you out of pocket.
These days we are all especially
price-conscious. Whether we wish to reduce our expenditure on funeral
flowers, or cannot afford the cost of attending a funeral and wish to send
some funeral flowers without over-spending, then inexpensively priced funeral
floral tributes sent direct to the funeral home are a great solution.
Where should funeral flowers
Funeral Home or Mortuary
In most cases funeral flowers
are delivered to the funeral home or mortuary handling the funeral.
The funeral director can then ensure that all floral tributes are appropriately
displayed and transported together for the funeral service. It can
also help that the funeral home will ensure family are aware of all the
floral tributes that arrive, and that there is plenty of time to arrange
tributes as the family desires.
Church, crematory, place
of worship or community center
Sometimes a funeral or memorial
service is held at a church, a separate place of worship or even a community
center. These days’ people are sometimes choosing to personalize
a funeral service by holding it at a unique location special to the deceased.
However, it can still be preferable to send funeral flowers to the funeral
home, to ensure that there is someone to receive the flower delivery and
there is no confusion. Sometimes floral tributes sent to a church
or another location can be left outside or even be mis-placed or unnoticed
until after the service has been held. The funeral home will happily
receive and transport funeral flowers to the service.
Home of the bereaved or residential
You can opt to send funeral
flowers direct to the home of the deceased if a funeral procession is to
leave from this address. Although bear in mind that again the funeral
director will happily receive and transport any floral tributes to the
residential address for the funeral service. Sympathy flowers are
most often sent directly to the bereaved at home. When sending flowers
to a residential address, it is best to make sure that there is going to
be someone available to receive the delivery at the designated time.
What kind of funeral flower
etiquette do I need to understand?
There are numerous questions
that people tend to ask about funeral flower etiquette. Flowers are
intrinsically associated with showing support and empathy with the family
when someone has passed, but there are some things you should consider
before selecting a floral arrangement.
What kind of flowers to select
Deciding what kind of flowers
to select for a funeral floral arrangement can require some thought.
Different types of flowers can symbolize different sentiments and have
different meanings, therefore you do need to bear this in mind.
Any type of flower can be
used for funeral tributes but certain types of flowers are either more
common, or are specifically used because of their meaning. Typically
white lilies and roses connote peace, whereas yellow roses symbolize remembrance
and friendship. Pink roses indicate femininity and elegance.
The purple cyclamen flower represents resignation and farewell, and orchids
are quintessentially associated with beauty and refinement. Gladiolus connotes
a strong character, tulips signify caring and white roses signify purity.
Common white flowers, such
as carnations, chrysanthemums, lilies and roses, are often popular funeral
flower choices as they can be color-sprayed to the color of your choice.
If you have any doubt about
what kind of floral tribute is appropriate, you can always check with the
family or funeral director.
Deciding what kind of floral
tribute is most appropriate
When choosing to send sympathy
flowers you must consider whether you wish to send a floral tribute to
the funeral, or whether you wish to send a more personal flower arrangement
to the home of the bereaved. This choice will determine what
type of floral arrangement would be most appropriate to send.
Memorial wreaths and standing or casket-top arrangements are only appropriate
if being sent directly to the funeral home. Whereas sprays, baskets,
potted flowers and plants can bring great comfort when sent to home of
the bereaved. Flowers can convey much hope, happiness and remembrance,
which is why sending flowers has long been a tradition at times of sorrow.
A gift of flowers is always
immensely appreciated, and if you are trying to choose a sympathy flower
arrangement – the following general guidelines and tips for sending sympathy
flowers may assist:
Should I still send funeral
flowers to a cremation?
Yes, funeral flowers are just
as important when the family opt for a cremation, especially if a service
is being conducted. In some cases the funeral will be conducted just
as a traditional funeral, only the deceased will be cremated rather than
buried. In other cases a cremation may be conducted and then a memorial
service held afterwards with the ashes present. Floral tributes are
still welcome to grace a memorial service.
How do I send funeral flowers
same-day delivery to a funeral home?
Sending flowers same day delivery
to a funeral home need not be a difficult task. There is now a wealth
of online flower companies across the States that offer same day delivery
of funeral flowers. The benefit of using an online flower company
are that you can visually choose the right type of funeral arrangement
by perusing funeral and sympathy arrangements, and in a hassle-free manner
complete your purchase, and arrange for your funeral flowers to be delivered
at the time of your choice.
If you are sending flowers
to a funeral, it is imperative to ensure your flowers are going to be delivered
to the funeral home in a timely fashion. You need to know at what
time the funeral is to be held, in order to schedule your flower delivery
at least a couple of hours prior to the funeral.
In addition to clearly indicating
the time of the funeral, it is also very important to have the correct
full details of the funeral home. Most national florists are experienced
with the etiquette of sending funeral flowers to a funeral home.
Indeed in the case of ordering funeral flowers online, or by telephone,
from a reputable florist, it is quite likely that they will use the local
florist who is familiar with their local funeral homes.
In fact there are a number
of online flower companies that will call you to confirm that your flowers
have been successfully delivered to the funeral home…just to give you peace
Online ordering is a streamlined
and robust system for making your same day funeral flower delivery purchase.
And if you have any doubts whatsoever about completing your transaction
online, you can always telephone through your order. Most flower
companies understand the need for personal service when it comes to funeral
The key to arranging a delivery
of funeral flowers is to ensure you select a reputable flower company that
has experience in same day funeral flower delivery, and to ensure that
you provide ALL relevant information in relation to the funeral.
The full address of the funeral home, the full name of the deceased and
the exact time of the funeral. This will ensure that sending your
funeral flowers will arrive on time, and minimize any worry.
What kind of message is appropriate
to send with funeral or sympathy flowers?
Deciding what message to write
on a card to accompany a funeral tribute can be difficult. The flowers
themselves are meant to convey a message of condolence and heartfelt sympathy.
It is wise to keep things simple and offer a short message of condolence.
What kind of message you write and what terms of endearment you choose,
can largely depend upon your relationship with the deceased.
Here are a few sample
sympathy messages to give you some ideas:
With deepest sympathy
You can, of course, chose to
send a longer message if you wish. However, funeral flower messages
are generally short and aim to simply convey concern and express sentiment.
It is probably better to write more extensively in a sympathy card to send
to the family.
Dear [deceased], May you
rest in peace
In loving memory of [deceased]
Dearest [deceased], you will
always be in our hearts and minds
My heart is filled with sorrow.
Rest in Peace
My thoughts and prayers are
with you at this sad time
How soon before the funeral
should I order funeral flowers?
It is generally advisable to
order your funeral flowers at least 24 hours before the funeral, although
if you are ordering a more complex floral tribute such as a casket spray
or shaped wreath, it would be advisable to order at least 48 hours beforehand.
However, it is possible to arrange same-day delivery for funeral flowers.
It is recommended to request
that funeral flowers being delivered to the funeral, be delivered to the
funeral home or funeral location at least 2 hours before the funeral.
This ensures that the funeral director can carefully receive and arrange
the floral tributes in preparation for the funeral. When you order
funeral flowers make sure the florist knows when the flower arrangements
need to be delivered by. If the service is in the morning, make sure
they get there, first thing.
If you are ordering sympathy
flowers to be sent to the home of the recently bereaved, you have more
flexibility on when to have them delivered. Sympathy flowers can be sent
as soon as you hear about the death or can be sent on the day of the funeral
service itself. Sending sympathy flowers to the relative’s home is
often done as a mark of respect and to show the family concerned that you
are thinking about them at a very difficult time. Sympathy flowers can
also be sent after the funeral itself, to let the family know that just
because the funeral service has already happened, you are still thinking
of them. There are no rules to sending funeral and sympathy flowers,
it is always the thought that counts. Just take into consideration
that sending sympathy flowers sometime after the funeral can be sometimes
be upsetting as it can be a painful reminder of the loss. However,
sending flowers on the anniversary of a death can be a way of showing you
care and remember.
How can you order funeral flowers
online and save money?
As a nation we all like to shop
online and save money. There are many, many online flower sellers
but prices for funeral flowers can vary. If you are particularly
looking to buy inexpensive funeral flowers on a budget, then you will find
that the funeral flower selection offered by US Funerals Online in partnership
with BloomsToday a great value deal. All our visitors receive a discount
on orders of funeral flowers and sympathy flowers. Call (800) 317-4807
or click here
When should you not send funeral
There are occasions when it
is not appropriate to send funeral flowers. In some cases the family
may request charitable donations in lieu of flowers, and you should respect
Although flowers form an
integral part of funeral rituals in many cultures and religions, it is
worth noting that in some religions it is not customary to send funeral
flowers. Jewish culture requires an immediate burial, so funeral
flower are deemed unnecessary. It is instead more customary to send
a gift basket of fruit or provisions to comfort and support the bereaved.
It is not traditional to
have funeral flowers at Islamic funerals, although individual blooms are
sometimes placed upon graves. Similarly flowers are not customary
at Hindu funerals but are not unwelcome.
Faith and Religion
Many faiths and religions
have their own traditions that govern appropriate condolence gifts for
a memorial service.
It is considered tradition
to send sympathy flowers either to the bereaved as a condolence message,
or to the funeral ceremony.
During Shiva, mourners cease
normal daily activities to experience the grieving process supported by
family and friends. Sending flowers during Shiva would be considered
a distraction. Sending fruit or gift baskets is often appreciated.
The color red signifies happiness
and wealth in Asian cultures, so is not considered an appropriate color
for sympathy flowers.
Fruit gift baskets are often
considered the appropriate memorial gift in the Hindu religion.
Condolences are so often
hard to express, finding the right words can be so difficult. A condolence
sent as a well-thought out and beautiful floral arrangement can convey
Can you make your own floral
tribute for a funeral?
Yes, you can make your own floral
tribute if you wish. This can be a great way to make a floral tribute
that is very personal, and can also be a significant way to save money
on funeral flowers. You do not necessarily need expert flower arranging
skills, just some imagination and a willingness to experiment.
This is made all the easier today, when we have online self-help tutorials
and videos, and can buy flower craft materials. You can buy flowers
at a discount local market, pick them from your own garden or pick some
wild flowers. If you wish to read further about making your own floral
tribute, visit our article on ‘Creating your own Memorial Tributes’.
Sending a gift basket instead
of a floral tribute
Sending a gift basket instead
of sympathy flowers is another option. Sometimes a recently bereaved
person can be overwhelmed with sympathy flowers, and a wonderful gift basket
can be a practical and supportive gesture. Gift baskets are generally
made up with a selection of fruits, preserves, biscuits or more gourmet
Selecting funeral flowers for
A death is always a sad event,
but the untimely death of a child is always an especially tragic event.
Unthinkable as the task may be purchasing child funeral flower arrangements
can prove in a heart-warming and wonderful testament to what a light the
child who has passed away was to the world and those around them.
It may be difficult to decide what kind of floral tribute is befitting
for a child’s funeral, but simplicity and a young theme are always a good
way to express your condolences. It is often considered a good idea
to create a floral display using a child’s favorite toy, or have a funeral
flower arrangement made up in the theme they loved, like a sport or a hobby.
If you are attending a funeral for a child ordering child funeral flowers
in the child’s favorite color is also a very lovely idea.
Selecting funeral flowers for
a veteran or Patriotic Funeral Flowers
Red, White and Blue Funeral
Flowers can be a very patriotic way to honor the life of a lost loved one,
especially if your loved one served for their country, had an especially
loyal love of their country, or passed away on the day of American Independence
There are many types of flowers
that can strike up a beautiful red, white and blue bouquet. Carnations,
do come in all three colors so can be an excellent, simple flower to make
a striking red, white and blue arrangement. White lilies and blue statice
flowers or roses can be used to add more variety if you choose. Indeed
many flowers these days can actually be sprayed to appear as the color
of your choice. Your florist should be able to advise you on what
can make the most beautiful patriotic bouquet.
Splendid wreaths can be constructed
using all three national colors from our flag. Alternatively, you
can choose to select one or two of the colors, and then use ribbon or other
trimmings to represent the third color. For example, a simple arrangement
of white carnations trimmed with red and blue ribbon looks extremely patriotic
and very dignified. Or red roses bound with white and blue ribbon
can look dramatic and extravagant, whilst conveying deep love. Patriotic
floral tributes can be made up using appropriately colored flowers and
Whatever you, or your florist
decide, red, white and blue funeral flower arrangements will make an excellent
Five Tips for How to Save Money
on Sending Funeral Flowers
Whatever you decide there are
certainly ways that you can save money sending funeral flowers to a funeral
home if you apply a few money-saving tips.
Use an online flower retailer
that offers a discount. Buy from an online flower seller who offers
a promotional discount.
Place the order yourself – do
not use the funeral home. The funeral home may offer to arrange funeral
flowers for you. This is great if you really do not want any hassle,
but they will charge a commission on their services. Some funeral
homes even own their own florist services, yet despite this will not heavily
discount their funeral flowers prices, even when they are getting thousands
of dollars from you for the funeral.
Opt for simplicity & consider
your flower choice. We can all get easily drawn into thinking we
should send something elaborate. What will people think? It
almost seems embarrassing to be thinking budget-minded. Do NOT think
this way. The bereaved family will be grateful for any and every
floral tribute, regardless of how flamboyant it is. If you are family
arranging a funeral, do not feel pressured into feeling you should have
extensive flower displays, simple and elegant is always best. The
cost of different flowers can change according to the season and availability,
so it is wise to check this. By making informed decisions about what
flowers to use you can save significantly.
Make your own arrangements directly
with a florist. There are relay and order-taker flower sellers these
days such as FTD and Interflora. Yes, they have brand recognition and presence,
but they largely charge a significant fee just to take your order and relay
it to a local florist. If you contact a local florist near to the
funeral home and place an order directly, you will cut out this expense
of using a relay service. You may also find you get a more personalized
service dealing directly with a local, independent florist. Most
of them will already be serving the local funeral homes and know the protocol
for delivery to specific funeral homes.
Prepare your own floral tribute
and hand deliver it. It certainly is not often possible, due to distances,
time-scales and other reasons, however, preparing your own funeral flowers
is a way you can save dramatically on funeral flower costs. With
all the basket, vase and flower stand accessories that can be purchased
these days, it can make it reasonably easy to make a beautiful display
at a fraction of the cost a florist would charge. You can even use
artificial flowers as funeral flowers, which may mean that the family can
keep them after the funeral service.
This detailed guide to sending
funeral flowers and sympathy flowers should have hopefully answered any
questions you may have had.
||Expert Author: Sara
Sara is the Editor in Chief
for US Funerals Online and has been researching and writing about the death
care industry in the US for the last 5 years.